Yes, All Men: Every Man Needs to Understand Internalized Misogyny and Male Violence

“We’re not going to fix society’s ingrained misogyny overnight. It will take generations. But we won’t make any progress until we acknowledge that it exists.”


In the aftermath of the weekend’s ghastly events at UC Santa Barbara, there’s been plenty of discussion about our pervasive culture of misogyny, and the myriad destructive ways in which it manifests. A large part of the narrative has been that men need to shut up and listen to women’s voices on this topic, which is certainly true. But men also need to talk, honestly and amongst ourselves, about the nature of masculinity, and acknowledge our own destructive impulses. This is a problem that men need to be discussing precisely because it’s a problem with men. And it’s only men who are going to fix it.

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Memorial Day Weekend

Those ideas I always think of for my apartment and add to a mental to-do list? Well, I actually DID them yesterday!

Wedding Wednesday: The “Let’s Talk About How Perfect My Bouquet Was” Edition

I have to say, my flowers turned out to be one of my favorite details of the wedding. You can show your florist all the magazine pictures and Pinterest boards you want, but let’s face it– you still won’t know exactly what your bouquet is going to look like until your actual wedding day. My florist absolutely nailed it! My bouquet was exactly what I wanted.
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The cameo brooch was “Something Borrowed” from the mother of the groom. The locket belonged to my great-grandmother — Something Old. I found gorgeous vintage ribbon on Etsy to wrap around my bouquet. They were removed during the ceremony to be used as handfasting cords.

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The bridesmaids’ bouquets were made of the same assortment of flowers as mine.
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I had shown my florist this magazine cover as inspiration. She created the same look using flowers that were in season!
Not bad, huh?

♥ kathyberry | lace & whimsy vintage | the berry store